As you stand and watch, the ship lifts its sails to the winds and glides out of the bay. She is graceful and strong, and sails to the place where sea and sky meet, becoming a speck on the horizon.
Then someone says "She is gone!"...but gone where?
Yet on another distant shore there are new voices belonging to other souls who cry out in celebration " Look ! She is coming."
- and that is dying
As signposts pointing different ways
for families and for friends,
Farewells and partings cleave my days
making beginnings as well as ends.
yet those I love take part of me
with them as they leave,
and close within the heart of me
is locked the love I grieve.
The Church of Scotland offers all residents in Scotland pastoral care, free of charge, includes bereavment care.
Parish Ministers of the Kirk conduct funeral services and journey with families through bereavements to ensure that
people are able to mourn and celebrate a life lived, and to move on appropriately.
We understand that death marks the close of an earthly life, and the funeral is an opportunity for friends and family to gather together to share their memories and all the complex feelings that attend the death of someone who has been a central part of their lives.
The practical arrangements for a funeral are made in conjunction with a Funeral Director.
You may wish to have the funeral in the church, followed by a burial, or at a crematorium.
A service in the church might be expected to last for about 20-30 minutes.
During the service the minister will remind folk that "this is not all there is", that death is a natural part of life, and that the promises of God about eternal life are realistic
He will also make it possible for folk to remember the life of the person who has died in the way you would wish, all the while reminding us all of the deep love of God that stays with us even through death.
The Church of Scotland makes no charge for the service of a minister, but does for the use of the church building. An organist, when used, is paid a fee directly through the funeral director.
Children usually handle funeral services well, and are welcome to attend with a known and trusted adult. There is nothing that would scare them, and they too have feelings which need an opportunity to express